I have been meaning to post a review of my goals for January and the books I have read – but life happened (and it is the middle of February?!). So an in-depth review might come later, but I had this thought I wanted to share.
Have you seen the adorable short film Frozen Fever? It was shown in theatres a few years ago before the new Cinderella movie. I think it is adorable.
I have to say, I can relate to Elsa a lot in this short clip. She has worked soooo hard to make Anna’s birthday perfect. The day of Anna’s birthday, Elsa has a cold. She tries her best to pull it off anyway and ends up exhausted and feeling like a failure.
Of course, Elsa was NOT a failure. Anna felt loved and had a wonderful birthday surprise.
But – I have been in many a similar situation, and felt that feeling of failure.
I plan a play-date, and then one of the kids comes down with a cold & we have to cancel.
I plan a super fun party, but I am so busy getting things ready and running around during the party that I cannot really enjoy it.
Often I try so hard to make things perfect, that I focus on all the wrong things.
Last month I read several books and articles on using my time wisely. The one common theme that stood out to me was to keep it simple.
I am trying to get more done, and I am told to keep it simple?!
The truth is, when we establish & focus on our priorities, we are able to simplify without leaving out the essential most important parts of our life.
As I have slowly tried to internalize this, I realize that a lot of my problem is honesty.
It is like when you ask your young child to please come back in the kitchen to eat his ritz crackers so that the crumbs don’t end up all over the floor. His response, “but I will be really careful mom.” He is being honest. He doesn’t understand that it is impossible for him to eat crackers in the living room without getting crumbs everywhere.
I am not purposefully dishonest with myself, but I am overly optimistic about what I can accomplish in a day. When I am really honest with myself, I say no to a lot more commitments. It can be difficult, because I like to say yes. I like to help, but when I say yes to too many commitments, I am really saying no to my top priorities – my health and my family.
Do you know what I have discovered? I have said ‘no’ to a lot of little commitments that do not really add to my life, help me reach my goals, or matter in the eternal scheme of things. Because I have said ‘no’ more, I have enjoyed saying ‘yes’ so. much. more. It is liberating to feel more in control of my life. I don’t have to say yes just because it is a good thing. I can choose to say yes to only the Best things.
It is totally ok to go all out – just like Elsa – for special occasions. It is also ok to scale it down and keep it simple. Do what works for you in this season of life – not what you feel is expected or required. Keep it simple – whatever that might look like for you.